My partner has a major big do in Holland in June, its a big posh ball, but i feel nervous about leaving my 1 year old and 3 year old here back in England. My mum is going to look after them, but i feel like i am going to miss them so much, the thought makes my stomach turn to knots. I have never left them for a weekend in my life! only for one night, oh what shall i do?. I know i am being pathetic but i am going to miss them especially with being out of the country. This trip has all been paid for by my partners company and all expeners paid, and its a big posh party, with suits and posh dresses, i know it will be amazing but what should i do?
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1 :
Go. When you come back they will be fine, and you will be so happy to see them. All your fears will be allayed when you see how smoothly everything goes.
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Go. You will regret if you do not go. You trust your mum with your children, and she surely knows what to do, she raised you, didn't she? This is the one time they pay you for going to the Netherlands, grab it. It is only for a weekend, your kids will not even have time to miss you, nor will you have time to miss them.
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i'm a kid and i thought maybe you can hear it from my perspective! My family travels a lot and my mom just came back i missed her but it's a good head start to get the kids to be independent i know there only ages 1 and 3 but maybe you should go and come back. Even though you'll miss them you can always call them and like get them a gift or even a souvenir so when they get older they can see my mom got this for me when i was young and stuff i know i'm getting off topic but i guess i should back to what i should be saying! It's only a weekend don't worry! It's a good start for your children and yourself to get ready when they get bigger cause at one point there going to get some sort of freedom that you may have to live with!
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You don't sound pathetic to me at all :0) As a mum of a 2 & 3 year old who has only left them when I had to have an operation, well I can completely empathise. The reality is that it's probably going to be a lot easier for them that it will be for you. Staying with Gran/Nan is fun and she'll probably spoil them rotten, she'll love it... they'll love it! Of course you'll miss them, but take your mobile, even take a laptop if you want and if your mum has the internet then likelihood is that the hotel will have wifi, and you can get them on the cam a couple of times to reassure you that they are doing just fine. I actually wish my parents were around to stay with my kids and I did put myself in your shoes, also uhmmed & argghed but came to the conclusion that I would go. As I said for the kids & your mum they will have a ball. Your partner will of course appreciate you being there (and this kind of thing does look better if work is offering it and it's accepted), and also thinking of you.... well I know full well that you deserve a treat (which this is). However, you have to change your mindset and really look at it as a treat - come on, the excuse to buy a posh frock, glam up for the weekend and spend time with adults with it all being expenses paid, away in a hotel with your partner and so a bit of real quality time with one another (and no "MUMMMMMYYYY" being bawled every two seconds..... that's the mindset you need to take on If you really hate it, then you'll know for next time that you don't want to do it again for the near future, but chances are that you will have a great time, and returning on Sunday to lots of kisses and hugs, well I can't think of anything better :0) So come on girl, off you go and have a great weekend!
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I fully understand! I did not leave my daughter until she was 4 years old! I was tearing myself up over it. We went on an overnight trip for a wedding and it was great. Go for it! It's just one weekend and you will be so refreshed and eager to jump back into things with your kids. Your kids will probably have a great time with your mom. Have fun!
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It will be in June. Why not "test" it before. Visit friends for a night, or get a hotel room in the same town - when your mum babysits. If it is really too hard, you will not be far away. But, you could find you enjoy it, and then you know you`ll be able to handle it. You should never, ever, neglect yourself completely - you`ll need some "you" time (or with partner, some "us" time).
