My bf and I have been in a LD relationship for a year but we manage to see each other every weekend. He recently got an amazing job offer with great pay. The problem is that it's a 10-month contract and it's in Holland. His plan is to go, get some experience and tons of money and come back and get married. I'm happy for him and we trust each together, but I'm scared that something will happen to prevent our dream from happening.
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Moving even further away is scary for anybody in a relationship. Stay in touch through emails, webcam chats, phone calls, etc. Fly out there to see him sometime if you ever get the chance. It will be a long ten months, but in the end when he does return, you will be all the more grateful to see him.
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if it is meant to be then it will happen for you two. Have faith and 10 months isn't that long to spend a life time together
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Well then let fate decide, just mention that you love him and want to marry him and is willing to move with him if he wants. Tell him your worried he'll find another woman and break up with you. You have to be honest
4 :
hmmm..looks like your gona have to wait it out.
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I would say just keep in Contact with him, trust me, 10 months will go by quick, if you keep yourself occupied though, but i think nothing will go bad
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let him go he will be fine as long as u trust him
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It will only hurt you to think about the what ifs. You have to focus on the now. The job is only for ten months and you have been in the for a year. If he stays behind to make you feel secure he may resist you from keeping him from doing something he wants to do. If you are happy for him and your trust your relationship you just have to hope for the best and make sure to keep in contact with him as often as possible. This could be a good experience for him. It will be hard not having the same kind of contact but if you remain positive it will work. If you get sad you will unknowingly take it out on him and then when you talk it will be hard to keep that negative feeling from getting in the way of your relationship.
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:O thats like the movie dear john kinda!!! except john goes off to war.. anyway! i think you guys should send letters and you guys should still visit eachother, try to stay close and think about one another alot so you dont forget.
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if you love him like you say you do. then it should not be a problem for you to wait for him.
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I myself could never be in a long distance relationship, so I commend you for being able to do so. I can only imagine how difficult it is, but what you need to do is just not get yourself paranoid about anything while he's away, and keep that strong trust you have for him. Remember everyday without him is one closer to seeing him again :)
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Let him go. The key to a good LD relationship (as you probably know) is to plan it and make it work. Schedule video chats, schedule "date nights". Find at least one time to go see him.
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Fear is only in your mind, don't let it overpower you. If you want to get married you will get married. Don't think bad thoughts.
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To be a considerate girlfriend, you have no choice but to support him since he is plan to go. Quarrels or any other inharmonious actions can only push him away from you. Since he has decided to get married with you, maybe you can suggest him to go to get a marriage certificate with you before he leaves. That may be more secure for both you and him. And after he get working experience and tons of money back after 10 months, you can go to enjoy your honeymoon. When your boyfriend moves overseas for work, keep good contact with him with any possible and economical methods. Give him supports in time when he meets frustration during work or adjust himself to Holland. Give him enough room and time by himself as well as yourself. Give him enough confidence by dealing with trifles all by yourself and tell him you are strong. But sometimes have to rely on him and tell him you need him. Good luck.
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when he leave you for his work ,you should said to him believe him and let him go ,because it is necessary experience for you ,but you have to stay in touch through emails ,phone,skype ,etc. I think you should tell him there is someone have been attract on you , he will have a hyper tension for you .it is important for you to be peaceful to wait for him ,believe me ,there is no problem for you so love him to wait for him if you love him so much ,good luck with you .
